Infatuation can be fun when it is at a distance. Who hasn’t admired someone from afar? But like any other emotion, infatuation can get out of hand.
Infatuation - or obsession - can feel great at first. The other person seems so special, so full of great qualities, why resist thinking of them? Unfortunately infatuation, for all it’s intensity, is not love. It is more like a drug state. The other person, whether they like it or not, has become the center of your thinking. Depression, emptiness and broken boundaries can follow. Occasionally, if both people are infatuated at the same time with each other, true love can grow over time, but this rare.
Letting go of an infatuation is often not easy, but admitting that one is infatuated is a good first step. An honest assessment of what lead to the obsession in the first place also helps, as does finding physical and mental ways to healthily detach.
Infatuation is often a long-standing habit, and sometimes it can just switch from one person to another. This is because it is a substitute for something that is internally lacking. Focusing on the self helps one to re-direct one’s energy to more positive outlets. Therapy can also be a helpful tool for developing self-focus.