We are constantly faced with opportunities to make either good or bad decisions. Sometimes, whether a decision is bad is not revealed until the passage of time, while other times poor choices are immediately obvious.
Several factors contribute to bad decision making. Some of these include wanting relief from anxiety and pressure, desperation, needing to feel loved or simply impatience. Other contributing factors include being hungry, angry lonely or tired, or using substances.
Decision making ability under these circumstances is compromised and can even be disastrous. Here are a few tips that can lead to better decision making:
Don't make decisions when someone is pressuring you. Wait at least 24 hours. It may feel like you don’t have that kind of time, but usually you will.
Think, think, think. Emotional distress can shortcut thinking situations through and cause you to work against your own best interests.
Let go of pride. Humility will help you to hold onto something precious when it might feel easier to just walk away.
There are usually more than just two decisions to any problem. If you don’t think so, then you may be trapped in a false dichotomy, one that may have been created by someone else.
Above all, don't lead a life of “quiet desperation” focusing on people, places and things as a way to avoid making your own decisions. If your best effort has led you to a dead end, it is time to receive support and guidance from people you trust who have no personal stake in your decision. This may come in the form of a trusted friend, a therapist, mentor, teacher or spiritual leader. Remember, there are always ways to make a better decision.