Articles by Cheryl Deaner on therapy, codependency and relationships
  

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Addiction and Recovery 
 
Alcoholics Anonymous 
Alcoholics Anonymous Recovery Resources 
Center for On-Line Addiction 
Web of Addictions

 

Anxiety Disorders 
Answers to Your Questions About Panic Disorder 


Associations & Institutes 
American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry 
American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy 
American Counseling Association 
American Psychiatric Association 
American Psychological Association 
American Psychological Society 
Canadian Mental Health Association 
National Institute of Mental Health 
National Mental Health Association 
Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration

 

Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder 
ADDA - Attention Deficit Disorder Association 
Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, NIH 



Child Abuse and Domestic Violence 
Childhelp USA® 
The National Domestic Violence Hotline Website 
Women, Violence and Trauma

 

Chronic Fatigue 
Chronic Fatigue Syndrome

 

Depression 
Bipolar Disorder News - Pendulum.org 
Depression and How Therapy Can Help 
Depression Test, Symptoms of Depression, Signs of Depression

 

Diagnosis 
DSM-IV-TR: Diagnoses and Criteria 


Disability 
http://www.disabledcommunity.org 


Dissociation and Traumatic Stress 
Sidran Foundation Home Page

 

Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender
Gaylesta.org 
NCLRights.org 
Ourfamily.org 


Journals & Magazines 
ADHD Report 
Anxiety, Stress and Coping 
Autism 
Childhood 
Dementia 
Depression and Anxiety 
Dyslexia 
 Eating Disorders 
Educational Assessment 
Journal of Gambling Studies 
Journal of Mental Health and Aging 
Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy 
Journal of Sport and Exercise Psychology 
Mental Retardation and Developmental Disabilities 
Neuropsychological Rehabilitation 
Personal Relationships 
Psychiatric Bulletin 
RealPsychSolutions Practical Self-Help Articles

 

Mental Health Care General Links 
CounsellingResource.com 
Internet Mental Health 
Mental Health Counselor Resources, About.com 
Mental Help Net 
PsychCentral.com 
University of Michigan Health Topics A to Z 
Web Sites You Can Trust, Medical Library Association

 

Personality Disorders 
Mental Help Net - Personality Disorders 
Personality Disorders - Focus Adolescent Counselor Services

 

Suicide Awareness and Hotlines 
Suicide Awareness Voices of Education 
Suicide: Read This First

 

Additional Mental Health Care & Counseling Resources 
 
Interpretation of Dreams 
Keirsey (Myers-Briggs) Temperament Sorter 
Signs of Menopause, Symptoms of Menopause

 

Medications and Health Supplements 
Drug Interactions, Alternative, MotherNature 
Drug Interactions, DIRECT 
Medical Dictionary 
Medications, FDA 
Medication, Internet Mental Health 
Medications, PDR 
Medline, Comparison 
Multivitamins 

 

 
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During times of stress and change, all of us have greater access to our inner selves. We are given the energy we need to create a better reality for ourselves and those we care about.  What do you really want to do with this one precious life of yours? Below are some articles I have written that talk about the psychological and spiritual process of becoming the person you are meant to be:

List of Articles:

Difficult Relationships – Ten Tips to Make Life Less Stressful

 
Three Things to Consider When Starting Therapy

Codependency:  "Who am I Without Others?" 

Living Well While Being Single 

When It's Time To See A Therapist 

City of Refuge


Alchemy 

In My Country - The Movie Review 

Questions

Is therapy right for me? 

Seeking out therapy is an individual choice. There are many reasons why people come to therapy. Sometimes it is to deal with long-standing psychological issues, or problems with anxiety or depression. Other times it is in response to unexpected changes in one's life such as a divorce or work transition. Many seek advice as they pursue their own personal exploration and growth. Working with a therapist can help provide insight, support, and new strategies for all types of life challenges. Therapy can help address many types of issues including depression, anxiety, conflict, grief, stress management, body-image issues, and general life transitions. Therapy is right for anyone who is interested in getting the most out of their life by taking responsibility, creating greater self-awareness, and working towards change in their lives.


Do I really need therapy?  I can usually handle my problems. 

Everyone goes through challenging situations in life, and while you may have successfully navigated through other difficulties you've faced, there's nothing wrong with seeking out extra support when you need it. In fact, therapy is for people who have enough self-awareness to realize they need a helping hand, and that is something to be admired. You are taking responsibility by accepting where you're at in life and making a commitment to change the situation by seeking therapy. Therapy provides long-lasting benefits and support, giving you the tools you need to avoid triggers, re-direct damaging patterns, and overcome whatever challenges you face.


How can therapy help me? 

A number of benefits are available from participating in psychotherapy. Therapists can provide support, problem-solving skills, and enhanced coping strategies for issues such as depression, anxiety, relationship troubles, unresolved childhood issues, grief, stress management, body image issues and creative blocks. Many people also find that counselors can be a tremendous asset to managing personal growth, interpersonal relationships, family concerns, marriage issues, and the hassles of daily life. Therapists can provide a fresh perspective on a difficult problem or point you in the direction of a solution. The benefits you obtain from therapy depend on how well you use the process and put into practice what you learn. Some of the benefits available from therapy include:

  • Attaining a better understanding of yourself, your goals and values
  • Developing skills for improving your relationships
  • Finding resolution to the issues or concerns that led you to seek therapy
  • Learning new ways to cope with stress and anxiety
  • Managing anger, grief, depression, and other emotional pressures
  • Improving communications and listening skills
  • Changing old behavior patterns and developing new ones
  • Discovering new ways to solve problems in your family or marriage
  • Improving your self-esteem and boosting self-confidence


What is therapy like?  

Every therapy session is unique and caters to each individual and their specific goals. It is standard for therapists to discuss the primary issues and concerns in your life during therapy sessions. It is common to schedule a series of weekly sessions, where each session lasts around fifty minutes. Therapy can be short-term, focusing on a specific issue, or longer-term, addressing more complex issues or ongoing personal growth. There may be times when you are asked to take certain actions outside of the therapy sessions, such as reading a relevant book or keeping records to track certain behaviors. It is important process what has been discussed and integrate it into your life between sessions. For therapy to be most effective you must be an active participant, both during and between the sessions. People seeking psychotherapy are willing to take responsibility for their actions, work towards self-change and create greater awareness in their lives. Here are some things you can expect out of therapy:

  • Compassion, respect and understanding
  • Perspectives to illuminate persistent patterns and negative feelings
  • Real strategies for enacting positive change
  • Effective and proven techniques along with practical guidance 


Is medication a substitute for therapy? 

In some cases a combination of medication and therapy is the right course of action. Working with your medical doctor you can determine what's best for you. It is well established that the long-term solution to mental and emotional problems and the pain they cause cannot be solved solely by medication. Instead of just treating the symptom, therapy addresses the cause of our distress and the behavior patterns that curb our progress. You can best achieve sustainable growth and a greater sense of well-being with an integrative approach to wellness.


Do you accept insurance? How does insurance work? 

I can provide you with an invoice that you can submit to your insurance carrier if you would like one.  Please be aware ot two things, however.  1)  I am not on insurance panels, so you need to check with your insurance carrier to see if your policy allows you reimbursement if you use a therapist of your choice that is not on their panel.  2)  When you utilize insurance to go to therapy, the diagnostic information collected by your insurance company in order to process your claim will in most instances becomes part of your medical record.

Here are questions to ask your insurance company about your mental health benefits:
  • What is the coverage amount per therapy session?
  • How many therapy sessions does my plan cover?
  • How much does my insurance pay for an out-of-network provider?
  • Is approval required from my primary care physician?


Is therapy confidential? 

In general, the law protects the confidentiality of all communications between a client and psychotherapist. No information is disclosed without prior written permission from the client.

However, there are some exceptions required by law to this rule. Exceptions include:

  • Suspected child abuse or dependant adult or elder abuse. The therapist is required to report this to the appropriate authorities immediately.
  • If a client is threatening serious bodily harm to another person. The therapist is required to notify the police.
  • If a client intends to harm himself or herself. The therapist will make every effort to work with the individual to ensure their safety. However, if an individual does not cooperate, additional measures may need to be taken.
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